The following video by Maja Toudal is just so relevant here, I had to repost it.
(Be aware that it does contain some swearing)
As aspergers many of us try hard to appear just like everyone else – but it is only ever a performance, and a very demanding one. A price must be paid for this. From my own experience, with so much thought dedicated to the appearance, not so much is left over for anything useful. It just renders me a kind of superfluous ghost. The effort demanded by ‘normalness’ left me with degraded functioning. I had to draw a line and decide how much ‘alien’ normal people had to accept. I began the process of recovering myself. The price I was paying in trying to comply with others’ casual demands was just too high. (Somchai)